In everyday life, the idealised & automated life could be exhibited by the man who wants to get the highschool hotty, then get the college degree, then get the cushy office job, then get the luxury holidays to the Bahamas, then get the semi-detached house in the suburbs, and then get the TVR Cerbera, and so on. All of these 'dreams' ideals or whatever you call them are other peoples ideals, not your own, and that's where the crux of the problem lays: in living other peoples DREAMS (future goals) rather than living your own LIFE ('being there').
I've enountered this in my own life a few years ago (in myself and other people) and called it 'life by numbers' (like 'painting by numbers') because that's exactly what you're doing: you're colouring in someone else's painting (living out someone else's dream-life), just filling in the gaps, and not doing anything original, anything personal and unique to you. What's the point in that? Someone else can do that. Someone else can live that life. 'Anyone' else can live that life. It doesn't need me. So why bother with it?
Anyway, here's the text about Male-Menopause from Larouche. The link to the webpage is at the bottom of this article:
The fact of the phenomenon of "male menopause," rules out a specifically biological cause for this phase-change in behavioral patterns to which I am referring here. For some women, the physical effects can be severe; but, that is a different matter than we are considering here. It is not the physical experience which is crucial in the phenomena of mass behavior which confront us as evidence bearing upon the present topic of discussion. It is the childish rage of one who has had some of his or her favorite toys taken away. The subsuming symptom is irrationality. When a paradox is encountered in the subject's situation, the loss of the subject's ability to locate pleasure in a creative treatment of the paradox, prompts an explosion of essentially incoherent rage of a type otherwise commonplace with bipolar incidents of a similar form. Persons who maintain actual creative powers, do not explode into rage in that habituated way. Lack of creativity, which coincides with the quality of bestiality, is expressed as a lack of a sense of specifically human identity, and, therefore, prompts expressions of bestiality in relevant cases. The syndrome is virtually inevitable among pseudo-creative, "learned" personalities of an academic orientation, where a loss of playfulness corresponds to an eruption of a sullenly stultified, readily enraged personality, exhibiting the worst features implied by studies of loss of creativity made by the late Dr. Lawrence Kubie.