Tuesday, 4 June 2013

What is a Mid-Life Crisis/Male-Menopause?

In the indented quote-text below are Lyndon Larouche's thoughts on what the male menopause is, and why is exists.  In summary, it's because men are living out other peoples idealised lives in an automated fashion, rather than living out their own in a creative fashion.

In everyday life, the idealised & automated life could be exhibited by the man who wants to get the highschool hotty, then get the college degree, then get the cushy office job, then get the luxury holidays to the Bahamas, then get the semi-detached house in the suburbs, and then get the TVR Cerbera, and so on.  All of these 'dreams' ideals or whatever you call them are other peoples ideals, not your own, and that's where the crux of the problem lays: in living other peoples DREAMS (future goals) rather than living your own LIFE ('being there').

I've enountered this in my own life a few years ago (in myself and other people) and called it 'life by numbers' (like 'painting by numbers') because that's exactly what you're doing: you're colouring in someone else's painting (living out someone else's dream-life), just filling in the gaps, and not doing anything original, anything personal and unique to you.  What's the point in that?  Someone else can do that.  Someone else can live that life.  'Anyone' else can live that life.  It doesn't need me.  So why bother with it?

Anyway, here's the text about Male-Menopause from Larouche.  The link to the webpage is at the bottom of this article:
The fact of the phenomenon of "male menopause," rules out a specifically biological cause for this phase-change in behavioral patterns to which I am referring here. For some women, the physical effects can be severe; but, that is a different matter than we are considering here. It is not the physical experience which is crucial in the phenomena of mass behavior which confront us as evidence bearing upon the present topic of discussion. It is the childish rage of one who has had some of his or her favorite toys taken away. The subsuming symptom is irrationality. When a paradox is encountered in the subject's situation, the loss of the subject's ability to locate pleasure in a creative treatment of the paradox, prompts an explosion of essentially incoherent rage of a type otherwise commonplace with bipolar incidents of a similar form. Persons who maintain actual creative powers, do not explode into rage in that habituated way. Lack of creativity, which coincides with the quality of bestiality, is expressed as a lack of a sense of specifically human identity, and, therefore, prompts expressions of bestiality in relevant cases. The syndrome is virtually inevitable among pseudo-creative, "learned" personalities of an academic orientation, where a loss of playfulness corresponds to an eruption of a sullenly stultified, readily enraged personality, exhibiting the worst features implied by studies of loss of creativity made by the late Dr. Lawrence Kubie.

Source: http://www.larouchepub.com/lar/2005/3244darkage_in_educ.html



  1. You make interesting points but miss something. You say that the life listed in paragraph is someone else's ideals, not the individual's. But what do you regard as an alternative that will fulfill the individual? Readers would like to know your viewpoint on that.

  2. @ Anonymous,
    to try and find out what really gives a person a life that satisfies 'them' rather than satisfying 'other people' or 'ideals', then they need to do at least two things:

    - Firstly is to experiment or play in a virgin/new field which the person has no previous experience with. This allows the person to express their own inquisitiveness and creativeness without other people influencing/judging what they do.

    - Secondly is to continue doing what they do regardless of what other people think. This shows that they are willing to endure suffering (either in verbal abuse or whatever) in order to do what they love. Christians call this 'picking up their cross daily', which highlights that Christ was willing to endure suffering for what He loved. The same applies to Odin and his hanging on Yggdrasil for nine days in order to get the runes. It's not the suffering that is important, it's the point that ther person so loves what they're doing that no-one elses opinion matters. It's of no consequence. They would do it regardless of whether it caused them to be liked or disliked.

    Those are the only two points that I can think of at the moment, although there's certainly more to be said on it.