As I’m sure you’re
all aware, Drama Queens like to bitch, they enjoy creating scenes, being
melodramatic, and they generally complain and/or whine about the littlest of
things.
The Drama Queen: every incident or opportunity, no matter how
insignificant, is exploited, exaggerated and if necessary distorted to become an
event of dramatic proportions. Everything is elevated to crisis proportions.
Histrionics may be present where the person feels she is not the centre of
attention but should be. Inappropriate flirtatious behaviour may also be
present.
Source: http://bullyonline.org/workbully/attent.htm
If you ever hear
a woman, or indeed an effeminate man for that matter, making a mountain out of a
molehill then avoid them like the
plague.They'll get you to waste you precious time on the most ridiculously inconsequential
things you could conceive. And that is time that (unless re-incarnation or a similar metaphysical system is true) you won't get back, ever. So instead of wasting your precious time with Drama Queens, invest your precious time doing things that bring you joy, whatever they may be (and remember that Benjamin Franklin played with kites, and Frank Whittle played with toy planes, so anything goes). (This post was inspired after/during reading THIS entry from Bob Wallace).
Play the music video above and sing along with the alternative lyrics given below.
# Drama Queen # Oooh-ooh Watch her bitch. Hear her whine. Having the time
of her life. Ooh-ooh. See that girl, cause a scene, she is the drama
queen. Sparking off at
the local mall. She argues about
something small: "Why did you
park the car there? "Couldn't
you park it here? "We're gonna
miss the shops." Her claims are
ridiculous. They won't miss
the effing shops. They're open until
late. They're open
twenty-four. But she just
doesn't care. 'cause when she
get's the chance, she's is a drama
queen. Hear her whine
about anything. Drama queen. Hear her bitch
about anything. Oh yeah. Watch her bitch. Hear her whine. Having the time
of her life. Ooh-ooh. See that girl,
cause a scene,
she is the drama
queen. Here they are now
in the shops and she's
bitchin' 'bout something else: "Look at the
price of these things, and these things
too, They are
exorbitant." See when she
get's the chance, she's is a drama
queen. Hear her whine
about anything. Drama queen. Hear her bitch
about anything. Oh yeah Watch her bitch. Hear her cry. Having the time
of her life. Ooh-ooh. See that girl, cause a scene, she is the drama
queen. She is the drama
queen. [End of lyrics.]
[Pre-amble: This is one in a series of posts which includes an alternative set of lyrics to a well known song.Each post will also contain a short introduction to the topic at hand, and a brief explanation of the song itself.A video of the original song will be included so that the reader can listen to the original song while reciting the alternative lyrics at the same time.]
The Song: Worst Friend (based on Best Friend by Queen)
Porn can be a real bitch if it controls you rather than you controlling it.It can turn you into an addict just like every other drug based substance if it gets too much for you.It can screw up both your mind and body up if you indulge it too frequently.The psychological damage is documented on websites like yourbrainonporn (though beware of the subtle mis-andric attitude of this website that attacks male sexuality but not female sexuality).Then there's the physical damage that 'can' occur if you masturbate.Excess masturbation can cause the muscles on either side of the penis to degrade and become mis-shapen (possibly in the same way that weight lifters report about 'muscle fatigue' if they spend too long weight lifting in the gym).It's what happens when a muscle is over worked, it suffers, just like any other part of your body.This psychological damage and physiological damage are both the result of porn, and both the result of giving into sexual desire whenever they felt aroused.
Now porn isn't really the cause of the problem, rather giving in to 'desires' is the problem.Just because you feel aroused or hungry or angry doesn't mean that you need to let those impulses run riot.You have the ability to 'Choose'.That, the element of exerting a Willful Choice, is the important point to remember.The Neo-Cortex is on top of the amydala for a reason: so that humans can 'Choose' what they want to do, rather than just 'following their instincts' like an animal.If a man follows his sexual impulses 'all of the time' then he is likely to suffer psychological and physiological damage because of it, damage like the man written about in this song.
This may lead some to think that being an ascetic is the only life to advocate, the life of self-denial, but this is not the case.Self-denial is a negative and reactionary way of looking at life, where someone allows their life to be dictated by something else (e.g. sex).The positive and actionary way of looking at life is a pro-active one, where a person 'affirms' a particular way of living instead of focussing on the negative/denial aspect all the time.In practical terms this means 'doing something' enjoyable rather than focussing on 'not doing something'.If you focus on not doing something for your whole life, it'll be less pleasant than choosing a life affirming and active one.
[Pre-amble: This is one in a series of posts which includes an alternative set of lyrics to a well known song.Each post will also contain a short introduction to the topic at hand, and a brief explanation of the song itself.A video of the original song will be included so that the reader can listen to the original song while reciting the alternative lyrics at the same time.]
Introduction:
This time around we've got a song which deals with the really banal (yet also philosophical) topic of 'Choosing'. More options are added to the world as more men 'find out who they are' (to use some old hippy parlance) and share their passion/joy with other men.
The Song: Odin, Ve and Vili (based on 'One Hand in my Pocket' by Alanis Morrisette)
The act of 'choosing' is the heart of this song.Making a 'choice' (any choice, whether it's "What philosophical system shall I live by?" or "What vegetables shall I have for dinner?") requires three separate acts, which are summed up in the three Gods of the Nordic Trinity, three brothers, who were responsible for the creation of the cosmos:
1. Odin (The God of Being/Doing - the opposite of apathy)
2. Ve (The God of Sense perception - the opposite of oblviousness)
3. Vili (The God of Will/thought - the opposite of mindeslessness)
I'll now elucdiate each of these stages to make it easier to understand; and we'll use a simple example of deciding what to have for dinner as the basis for the example:
1. Firstly, in order to make any kind of Choice, first there must be Options for you to choose from.Creating these 'Options' requires energetic creativity to either 'play around' (like kids), or 'experiment' (like scientists), or try 'something new' (like regular folk).By being creative, by being active, you create new things or acquire new things both of which provide you with more options than you formerly had.For instance if you went to your local K-Mart and bought a readymade casserole and a readymade pie then that would provide you with two more 'Options' of what to eat for dinner.
2. Secondly, once you have acquired these new 'Options' you need to perceive them and become aware of them and all their attributes.It's better to be fully aware of the attributes that each 'Options' has.That way you can make a better, more accurate 'Choice' that benefits you.For instance you may study the packaging of your two readymeals, the pie and the casserole, and determin that the casserole has more protein in it, but the pie has more carbohydrates in it.
3. Thirdly, you need to think about which one of the 'Options' you are going to 'Choose'.Considering the pros and cons, the advantages and pitfalls of each choice and which 'Option' will serve you best, will give you what you want.For instance having seen that the casserole has more protein in it than the pie, and knowing that you will be body-building at the gym this evening, you see that the protein will be more advantageous to you than the carbohydrates, and so willfully 'Choose' the 'Option' of casserole for your evening meal.
After the third and final stage, the process starts where it began: with Doing, with Odin, with actively eating your casserole.That's the cycle of the Norse Trinity, ending where it begun and beginning where it ended.And it goes on for as long as you want it.
A 'Triquetra'
While I don't know what the Triquetra symbolises (internet searches haven't yielded anything definite other than 'a symbol of Odin'), when I see it I think of Odin, Ve and Vili.Posters and t-shirts of it are probably available from local Goth shops, as are items of jewelry if that floats your boat.Either way if you have an image of it floating around in your life somewhere then it will jog your memory every once in a blue moon, like any little trinket, and cause you to remember Odin, Ve and Vili (Doing, Sensing, Thinking).
A final sentence on the structure of the song.Each of the verses in the song deals with one of the Gods and includes a collection of that particular Gods attributes.
Play the song in the video above and then song along with the alternative lyrics below.
# Odin, Ve and Vili #
I'm Odin and being.
I'm motion and doing.
I'm hot and I'm hairy yeah.
I'm mad and I'm frenzied.
I'm strong and I'm forthright.
I'm love and I'm hatred baby.
And what it all comes down to,
Is that everything is gonna be fine, fine, fine.
Because while Odin is creating,
Ve and Vili are standing on the side line.
I'm Ve and I'm sensing.
I'm seeing and I'm hearing.
I'm discriminating yeah.
I'm tasting and touching.
I'm observant and perceptive.
I'm smelling and ESP baby.
And what it all comes down to,
Is that everythings gonna be quite alright.
Because while Ve observes the Options,
Odin and Vili are standing on the side line.
And what it all comes down to-oo-oo,
Is that I haven't got it all figured it all out just yet.
Because while Vili is Choosing one Option,
Odin and Ve are standing on the side line.
I'm Vili and Will-ful.
I'm mind and I'm judging.
I'm considered and dispassionate.
I'm logic and I'm reason.
I'm thought and I'm thinking.
I'm memory and recall baby.
And what it all boils down to,
Is that no-ones really got it figured out just yet.
